you know that the slightest form of negativity can instantly sabotage a
conversation? If you grumble about the weather or slightly frown when a
colleague says something displeasing, stress neurochemicals are
released in both the speaker’s AND listener’s brain.
A friend posted this today and I have to say that the article, which is quite a bit longer than what I’ve shared here, really resonated with me. Thinking about it, it makes a whole lot of sense. I can definitely feel the draw downward on the Laws of Attraction continuum when I so much as think a complaining thought about someone or something.
So what do we do about it? How do we set an intention to keep our thoughts as positive as possible? How do we keep from draining our own batteries with negativity?
Here are some possibilities:
1. When you feel a complaint bubbling up inside of you, immediately think of something you appreciate about that person or situation. (it’s impossible for your brain to hold both a positive and a negative thought at the same time!)
2. Make a point of thinking about at least one gratitude per hour.
3. Catch yourself mid-complaint and ask “will this really matter in five years?”
4. Instead of voicing the complaint, make the biggest pouty face you can, then, once you’ve stopped giggling, release the complaint without voicing it (if you can even still remember what it was!).
5. Whenever you are in the bathroom (or any place else that has a mirror or mirror-like surface), look yourself in the mirror and say “I’m beautiful, sexy and delicious!”
6. Perform random acts of kindness.
7. Engage in random acts of silliness.
8. Give someone a hug, just because.
9. Gather “positivity buddies” around you to help each other remember to keep thoughts, words and deeds positive.
10. Give lots of compliments and praise.
11. Sing along with the radio.
12. Dance to the music in the stores where you shop.
13. Actively seek out the humor in every situation.
14. Laugh or smile for no reason.
15. Throw imaginary heart shaped confetti at anyone or anything which threatens your positive outlook.
And wouldn’t you know, because I started this train of thought today, someone would throw something in my way that required me to stop my spew of negativity mid-stride (though not as quickly as I would have liked!) The Universe just loves to show me how far I have to go, and leaves it to me to recognize how far I have come! But in the end, I found the solution, and will calmly express my disappointment in the behavior to the appropriate parties and let go of the situation. Once again, it isn’t what people do that matters, but how we react to what they do. In this case, turning my attention to the wonderful people around me, the happy, dancing energy and new connections defused the negative energy. (not to mention, the song we needed on my phone which was easily connected to the dj equipment and used temporarily until it can be replaced in their system with a little help from their friends!)
I also realized that people stoop to petty, childish behavior when they think they need to control something that doesn’t need controlling. It is probably an indication of how out of control their own life is. This is the same behavior that leads some to eating disorders or alcoholism, and the best I can do for them is to send love and light, but disengage my own emotions from the situation. And so it shall be.
I look forward to hearing how other people maintain or restore their natural, positive energy amidst life’s challenges. We can all learn from each other (like number 15 which I borrowed from a friend, and have used extensively ever since!).
As I’m learning since posting this blog more publicly, the life lessons I’ve learned may be helpful to someone else, and the lessons someone else has learned may be helpful to me. What better way to share positive energy than to offer each other examples of how we met and overcame life’s challenges?
So here’s another one for you. Let’s get out there and engage in random acts of sharing!
My gratitudes tonight are:
1. I am grateful for dancing which never fails to center and ground me.
2. I am grateful for the loving inspiring, spiritual beings who are continuing to come into my life and enrich it beyond anything I could have imagined.
3. I am grateful for the opportunity to expand myself and my abilities to help others.
4. I am grateful for information that comes to me exactly when I need it and am ready for it.
5. I am grateful for unconditional love.
Love and light.